Bargell: Cry me a river
It all started last week, and I’m still not really sure who turned on the water works. Looking out over Lake Dillon on an early morning run, I took in the sight of the iridescent gold of the trees against the blue lake backdrop and my eyes, well, sprung a leak. I quickly glanced around confirming no one had caught me in the act, and I picked up the pace and made it back home. Later in the day while listening to some really nice music, the faucet started up again, unbidden. Fortunately, when I looked around this time, tears were streaming down the face of the woman in front of me, so I figured I was good – no one would notice my errant drops. Then, to top it all off I went with a friend to see “Eat, Pray, Love” – a consummate chick flick. I will admit to crying only three times during the movie – the rest must have been allergies. Plus, it was dark so no one would have seen me.
While I’m not sure what’s in the air (and it’s not hormone, thank you very much), it sure seems to have affected my tear ducts. So, because no one likes to cry alone I think everyone else in the county should give it a try. Let’s face it, summer is coming to a close and soon we’ll be coping with those long winter months. So, considering all of the beauty in view today (and hopefully for a few tomorrows) let’s all give it a good cry.
Before agreeing to participate, you should know that I looked online to ensure there are redeeming qualities for us cry babies (and you know who you are). There’s the obvious catharsis, stress reduction and eye lubrication. I also found an article that explains “crying is a highly evolved behavior,” according to Tel Aviv University evolutionary biologist Dr. Oren Hasson. Perhaps my dear husband is more evolved than I had previously thought. Shedding tears is evidence we have progressed up the evolutionary ladder. I do admit, however, that my tears often start to flow when I think about how we forget sometimes to be human.
The benefits of a county-wide, or even a country-wide, tear fest would be immediately apparent. Apparently, crying helps us bond with each other. With election time upcoming, we’re likely to shed a few tears anyway, so why not make the best of it? Maybe it would lead us to some much-needed bonding with our fellow citizens. A different study of over 3,000 personal accounts of crying concludes that two-thirds of us feel better after crying. That’s better than a county-wide prescription for Prozac. And, consider one of my favorites – we can all laugh ’til we cry. It beats crying until we pee our pants (although not unheard of, and typically also results in additional laughter).
Now, not all crying makes one feel better, I recognize that. But, it seems all crying ensures that we are feeling. In my book that’s a good start.
Let your tears come. Let them water your soul. -Eileen Mayhew
Cindy Bargell lives outside of Silverthorne with her husband and two daughters. She is a card-carrying PTSA member, real estate and natural resources lawyer and part-time gymnastics coach. She welcomes your comments at email@example.com.
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