Congratulations, you’re getting married. Now people will buy you stuff. Your job is to ask for the kind of stuff you want.
You’ll need stuff from barware to bedding, formal dinnerware to frequent flier miles.
Make a list. Do not think for a second that other people will know what you want. Register at two to four stores that your guests can easily get to or access online or by fax or phone, places with a range of brands and price ranges. Folks will want to buy you bot traditional stuff, like a meat grinder or a coffee pot, and fun stuff like an ice cream maker or a pizza stone.
You need to know how the retailer maintains your registry. If an item is purchased, when will it be reflected on your list … in 10 minutes or 48 hours? Coffee pots are nice, but you only need one and in a point-and-click world it’d be easy to double or triple on presents you don’t want.
You’ll get a bunch of the stuff at the wedding or in person, but some will be shipped. Make the address convenient, your home, office or your mom’s house. It’s easy to pick up the gifts, and easy for guests who might not want to schlep the stuff around.
Since people tend to procrastinate, you’ll want a registry that will stay posted for at least a year after your wedding date. Some procrastinators insist they’re sending a little something after the wedding as a housewarming gift or to help you celebrate an anniversary, or reward you for taking the correct turn in one of those crossroads-of-life moments.
Of course you need a spatula, but you don’t need five. Find out about the store’s exchange and return policy. Questions you must ask include: How long do you have before you can return or exchange an item? Do all items fall under the exchange and return umbrella or just some?
Some folks, who love you and want what’s best for you, will give you money. Ask the store about discounts on any registry items that weren’t purchased. You may get a percentage off of anything on your registry for a year after your wedding, or you may get the discount on a one-time shopping spree. Ask registry consultants about discount specifics.
Once you choose where you will register, go meet the people. You’re on the same side: You want to get cool stuff and they want to sell cool stuff. Wander around the store with a staff member. Take your time. Marriage is supposed t be forever and so is most kitchenware.
You can always come back later to change your list ” add or delete items. Sometimes you can often manage your registry online from your home computer so you don’t have to do it all at the store itself.
Register for lots of diifferent items. That gives your guests a wide range of choices and prices. Register first for the stuff you’ll really need and use all the time, like coffee mugs. Add stuff like a cappuccino maker later. That way, you aren’t stuck with a cappuccino maker but no cups.
And finally, remember your manners. Express your gratitude for your registry gift, or any gift for that matter, with a handwritten thank-you note. Computer-generated notes simply will not do. Gifts are not mandatory. Show guests you appreciate what they’ve done for you.
– butter knife
– salad servers
– serving spoons (slotted)
– serving forks
– soup ladle
– wine glasses
– water goblets
– juice glasses
– champagne flutes
– ice bucket and tongs
– margarita and/or martini glasses
– gravy boat and stand
– salt and pepper shakers
– serving bowls
– salad bowl
– serving trays
– soup tureen
– butter dish
– cake plate
– china place settings (dinner plate, salad/dessert plate, bread and butter plate, teacup and saucer)
– casual place settings (dinner plate, salad/dessert plate, soup/cereal bowl, mug)
– coffee grinder
– tea kettle
– food processor
– saucepan with lid
– roasting pan
– casserole dish
– baking sheets, cake pans, muffin tins
– measuring cups/spoons
– steak knives, bread knife, paring knife, sharpening tool
– kitchen shears
– slow cooker
– sheet sets for main and guest bedrooms
– down comforter/duvet cover
– bed skirt, mattress pad, blankets
– pillows and decorative pillows
– bath towels, hand towels, wash cloths, guest towels
– bath mats
– electric toothbrush
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